My toddler has been very attached to her security blanket, also known as ‘Blanky’. It’s to a point that she wants to bring it to school and gets very upset when I put it to wash. The other day, ‘Blanky’ was in the washing machine and when she realized she stared at it for a few minutes in tears screaming ‘Blanky!!!!! Blanky!!!‘ It was dramatic and emotional, and it took me a while to get her to calm down and wait until Blanky was clean.
A few weeks ago, she was the ring bearer in her Godmother’s wedding. Everything was so beautiful and she was doing very well without her ‘Blanky’. During the ceremony, the baby started to fuss so I went to the back of the church trying to not disturb my friend’s special day too much. J got upset that I left, and started to get anxious. The time to bring the rings was approaching and she was on the edge to start a temper tantrum. My husband made the call and gave her the blanket that was hidden in the backpack. J calmed down as soon as she got her best friend back.
When it was the time for her to bring the rings, I looked and saw my child walking down in this beautiful white dress carrying this fancy box with the wedding bands alongside her inseparable dirty blanket. I just gave my husband a look, I was a bit embarrassed… But, she did it, she walked down all by herself among almost a hundred of strangers, gave the rings to her Godmother and returned back to her dad. It was cute. I think it was perfect because it was J being herself. She feels courageous and safe when holding that blanket, so we need to give her time to transition out of it.
I am not sure when she got so attached to this blanket, but I suspect that it was during my pregnancy and it got a little more intense after the baby came. I wanted to understand this behavior under a developmental point of view so I read some articles online. It was helpful for me to learn that transitional objects are common and helpful during this developmental phase.
Below is an excerpt of the article from the American Academy Pediatrics.
“Security objects such as blankets are part of the emotional support system every child needs in his early years.
Your child may not choose a blanket, of course. He may prefer a soft toy or even the satin trim on Mom’s bathrobe. Chances are, he’ll make his choice between months eight and twelve, and he’ll keep it with him for years to come. When he’s tired, it will help him get to sleep. When he’s separated from you, it will reassure him. When he’s frightened or upset, it will comfort him. When he’s in a strange place, it will help him feel at home.
Despite myths to the contrary, transitional objects are not a sign of weakness or insecurity, and there’s no reason to keep your child from using one. In fact, a transitional object can be so helpful that you may want to help him choose one and build it into his nighttime ritual.”
We will let J take her time with her ‘Blanky’ and we hope to never lose it!
Wishing you all a happy Friday! Enjoy some toddler singing below 🙂