I just came across this poem that we had as part of our wedding ceremony. We got married four years ago in Canada in a beautiful Autumn day. It was magical, and it was much more than I had ever dreamed of.

I don’t believe there is one ‘recipe’ for a happy marriage, except that it will not survive without love and respect. That’s why this poem speaks so much to me. I hope you enjoy it!


The key to love

(unknown author)

The key to love is understanding …
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.

The key to love is forgiveness ….
to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.

The key to love is sharing …
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways
to intensify your happiness.

The key to love is giving …
without thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.

The key to love is respect …
realizing that you are two separate people,
with different ideas; that you don’t belong to each other,
that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.

The key to love is inside us all …
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients
that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process
that demands a lot of work …
but the rewards are more than worth the effort …
and that is the key to love.

Marriage church

Photos credit to Jean Mark Robin